What not to do on a first date

It's understandable to be completely out of practice on what to do and what not to do on a first date. Since the Covid19 pandemic started in early 2020, in-person dating has been a thing of the past. As England is opening up slowly and dates are now back on the cards you're probably using a Surrey Dating Site* to arrange real-life dates so here's my top tips of what not to do to get you back into the swing of first dates.

Don't be late

This is by far one of my biggest bug bears in life never mind just in dating. Being late for something is just rude, especially if it's a first date and the first time you've met someone. You can only give one first impression and if that is leaving someone hanging around waiting for you to turn up it's not a brilliant one. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time to arrive and plan your journey accordingly. Of course sometimes things happen out of our control so if there's an emergency or breakdown or something make sure to let your date know as soon as possible and give them an estimated time to help set expectations

Don't wing it

For a first date you definitely don't need a regimented itinerary, but you should have a loose plan and idea of how you'd like the date to plan out. A date to 'hang out' to me translates as something not very serious, which is fine if that's what you're looking for while Surrey dating - but if you're looking to progress it to a second and third date a plan is a good idea so check out my A-Z Dating Ideas. It also helps people make really simple decisions such as what to wear, whether they should eat beforehand and help relieve any first date nerves. 

Don't be self centred

While most people have a chat and get to know each other online before meeting up there should still be absolutely tons of things you don't know about each other. Make sure you're listening to each other and asking questions to learn more. Nobody wants to be on a date with someone who only talks about themselves, and doesn't appear to have any interest in their date. 

Don't be too serious

First dates are supposed to be fun! It's a way to get to know someone with minimal pressure so you can decide where it goes. Don't get too serious or heavy on a first date just enjoy the moment you're in and don't think ahead too much. I'd definitely recommend not to make major plans for the future or get too attached on a first date, this can sometimes give a clingy impression and put prospective partners off

Don't do something you'll regret

Now this is purely personal advice and not a firm rule. It all depends on what you're looking for from the date, but generally on a first date if you're wanting there to be a second - keep it to a kiss at the end of the evening at the most. If you're looking for fun and not a relationship then see where the night takes you, and there's zero judgement with either. But if you think this person has potential it's important you keep a little mystery and leave them wanting more for the second / third dates.

What are your tips for a first date?