Tips for keeping your sex chat spicy
When everyone was stuck indoors during the pandemic, many people turned to virtual sex outlets with the partners that they were stranded from. Though this opened the doors for new ways to experience intimacy, it also made people realize that keeping sex chat fresh and fun is as difficult as keeping regular sex interesting. It’s all too easy to fall into a routine, no matter what kind of sexual activity you’re enjoying. So, below are some original tips to keep sex chat simmering, no matter how many times you’ve done it before.
Pick a Beloved Movie or TV Show
If you’re going to have a sex chat, you can turn it into real-life fan fiction if you want by using themes from your favorite thing to have on during Netflix and chill. You could reinvent Doctor Who and add in more X-rated action or recreate your favorite scenes from 50 Shades of Grey. You don’t have to worry about a lull in the conversation because you already know what comes next.
The best part is that a lot of the mental work has already been done for you. All you have to do is pick out a costume (if you’ll be sending pictures back and forth) and brush up on your favorite episodes to help you get into character. And if you do plan to send images, check out these tips from an expert on how to capture your sexiest self and send the most flattering selfies to your sex chat partner.
Travel Somewhere (In Your Imagination)
If you’re not ready to do full-on roleplay with a beloved character from a show you adore, you can do something that takes fewer acting chops. Imagine you’re on a trip together, and things start to get hot when you’re on the beach or a crowded train. Bonus points if you wear a bikini, make a pina colada, or do whatever it takes to feel fully immersed in your sex chat.
Play Games
Playing games during sex chat is always a good time. You can’t go wrong with the classics, so why not try truth or dare? You might learn some sexy secrets from your partner’s past. Or it might bring out the daring side in both of you.
Next, you could try a sensual game of “would you rather”. Ask your partner what they want you to wear when you’re chatting; then give them two choices. Give them options of what kind of a picture or video they want next or which fantasy to explore together. You can take turns being the person who gets to make the decisions. Or, for a kinkier take, put one person in charge throughout, and the other person will adhere to their wishes.
If you want to play something that doesn’t harken back to childhood, grab some dice. Let your fate be decided by the numbers you roll. Choose numbers that represent taking a short video, sending a pic, or an explicit message (you’ll need multiple numbers for each). Then roll to find out where your sex chat is headed next. Once you've finished with the chat why not continue your game date night with more traditional formats.
Practice the Art of the Tease
Sometimes the best part of a sex chat is what you don’t say. Learning to read between the lines and hold out—even just for a moment—before giving your partner what they want can help amp up the anticipation.
Picture yourself at a strip club. You dance around and slowly remove your clothing. You don’t simply walk onto the stage and rip your clothes off as fast as you can. Taking your time is a good thing because you won’t want the chat to end too quickly if you’re enjoying yourself embracing your sexuality. Focus on savoring the buildup rather than rushing toward a quick conclusion.
Mix It Up
Sex chat doesn’t have to be with just your partner. You could invite someone new to spice things up. It’s a great way to try swinging or a threesome without worrying about the jealousy factor. But you don’t want your nudes to get leaked online or to end up texting with someone underage or a bot. So, find a sex chat website* that protects your privacy and verifies its users’ ages before you get started.
So how about it, Truth or Dare?
